At least that is the number I think is correct. I do not re-read my old posts so I lose track of which number I am up to. I am taking a sabbatical from my discussion forum
as after about 7 years of so I haven’t taken a break from posting there. It isn’t a successful site which is okay, I console myself with the fact that those who do come by and read only still get the content and message left for them.
In light of that move I wanted to do something different today on this website. A little variety helps. Some of what is offered here will be pet peeves and some will just be personal observations based upon my faith and perspective. I am not a perfect human being and people may not agree with my conclusions or personal viewpoints that will be expressed here but that is okay.
Paul in 1 Corinthians 7 took time to say that certain words were his personal opinion and not God’s which tells us that we are allowed to have some personal ideas about things as long as they are not sinful or violate God’s rules. So I do the same here.
#1. People who feel the need to mourn in public media
I was exposed to this phenomenon for the first time about 20 years ago. There was a multiple slaying that stunned the people in one city and one of the two daily newspapers published a page long cryfest by one of the friends of the victims on page 2. It may have started on the front page but I do not remember.
Now this may make it seem like I am a cold-hearted person but in reality I am not. I just hold to the view that newspapers are for news not for expressing personal grief. it is jut out-of-place as the view of the victims held by the mourner may not be shared by everyone else.
There is a difference between Walter Cronkite being overcome by emotion at the reporting of the death of President Kennedy and the personal mourning of victims of a tragedy. The former was reporting the news in which the reporter couldn’t contain his shock and grief while the latter was not reporting any news but dishing out one’s personal feelings.
Public media is not the place to share one’s sadness. Sharing one’s grief is best served privately among friends and family who can actually comfort the person in mourning.
#2. Those people who feel the need to share personal events on the internet
I get it that people are happy and want to share their joy with everyone but guess what? For some, it is like being invited over to a friend’s house and being subjected to badly filmed home movies.
When I go to a professional weblog or website I do not expect to find personal details spread across their pages. I have no interest in those events when I am looking for professional opinions, theories on important subjects.
Being a very private person I do not get this need that some people have in that they have to share every personal event with complete strangers over the internet on their webpages.
I do get it that these good personal events are big milestones in people’s lives but you are not the first person to experience these moments of joy and you won’t be the last.
If your wife gave birth, a simple statement about being a father is sufficient, I do not need to be inundated with 60+ photos (slight exaggeration) of the same baby doing nothing but sleeping.
Not everyone enjoys being subjected to personal triumphs or accomplishments. Sometimes, those events can spark some envy and jealousy so believers should take care and learn discernment on how and to whom they should share such joy.
The word ‘tact’ comes to mind. That is a lost art these days as so many people have this misguided thought that others want to know about every little detail of your personal life.
#3. People who pretend to like those people & what they do in # 1 & 2
They are out there and to me it is dishonest. I am of the opinion that those who do the pretending do so to gain some advantage over others and hope they make themselves look good by feigning support for such actions.
When they leave the presence of those who share information found in #1 & 2, they then let their real opinions show. That is a big turn off to me. You may not like my point of view in the first two points but at least I am honest about those actions.
I am not judging or condemning those people I am just expressing my feelings on those actions. They are free to do such things but it would be nice if they learnt some wisdom and applied it to their daily lives. The same goes for those who say one thing to the person’s face and another thing behind their backs. We used to call the latter ‘two-faced’, I think the word that is used more now is ‘hypocrite’.
They are people you can never trust and trust is far more important than blind support.
#4. Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and other social media
I do not have an account with any of them, though I may have signed up once at Facebook years ago before it got so popular and only because someone invited me. I have never used the account, do not remember the username or password and so on. I signed up for one purpose but forgot all about it.
What gets me is that people post private things on these social media outlets then turn around and complain that their privacy is violated by unwelcomed parties. If you do not want the world to know about something DON”T PUT IT ON THE INTERNET, especially on websites that allow all types of weirdos and perverts, hackers etc., to participate.
What also bothers me is when certain teachers post criticism of their students that is hurtful and insulting. These teachers get all self-righteous about how they kept it private etc., yet used certain words to ensure that the curious student would find out exactly what was said.
These teachers know full well that students are not computer illiterate and have the ability or know someone with the ability to circumvent security codes. The mock self-righteousness loses its credibility because we all know the teacher wanted the students to find out in a manner where the teacher can claim innocence.
I was never excited or tempted by these social media outlets because I realized that e-mail did the exact same thing as those popular sites did except for one thing—it could keep private information private. The only people reading or seeing what is contained in the e-mail is the recipient and the only way it could become public is if the sender or recipient made a mistake or purposefully spilled the beans.
If you want to keep things private, stay away from the internet because once the news gets out, it is out for all to see.
What the popularity of these sites tells us is that there is a growing need for attention that just isn’t being met by one’s close circle of friends and family. That is cause for concern as when someone goes to the internet to meet their needs, they never know who they will get attention from and they may be putting themselves in danger.
#5. People who need to show everything they have to everyone around them
I am not talking about those people who share photos and information found in the above points but I am talking about modesty. Yes barley clad women are great to look at but I wouldn’t want to date or marry one who dressed in that manner. Sorry guys, being sexy to me doesn’t include the girl exposing herself so that all men do not have to use their imagination.
I prefer a girl who covers up, not in the Islamic sense of the word but in the biblical sense of the term. One who doesn’t follow the influences and teaching of secular culture, where fashion designers consider indecent exposure sexy.
Now this idea of modesty is not limited to women. Sorry men and boys but I really do not think it is appropriate for males to be attending school or walking down the public street with your pants belted at the knees.
No one wants to see your underwear or crack and it is not ‘cool’ to dress like that. Real men dress correctly as they are to have a good reputation amongst the leaders of their city and dressing like your arms are unable to pull your pants up is not providing you with the reputation you should have.
Does this mean men should always wear suit and ties? No but they should look to the bible to guide them in how they should dress. Not only to make their wives and girlfriends proud but also to bring a good reputation to Christ and the Church.
#6. Educators who think it is cool to dress like slobs
I have seen this more often than I have wanted. For some reason someone got the idea that it is ‘cool’ or professional’ for a professor to dress like they just came back from 6 months of living at the local rescue mission
Sorry but such clothing doesn’t enhance your education or presentation it just distracts from it. I have complained to BAS over the years concerning the way some of their professional lecturers have dressed when giving their lectures. Good money, and BAS is not cheap, is spent to listen to these men and women and one would think they would respect their audience enough to dress in a manner that is behooving of their position and topic.
A big turnoff of the lecturer and his information comes when he arrives dressed in a t-shirt with no coat. Then as you try to listen to what he or she is trying to say, the lecturer moves their arm to emphasize a point and you get a full view of this giant pit stain.
It is disgusting and not what you paid for. At least wear a sports coat to cover such indiscretion, though one lecture does wear a sport coat with a terrible looking t-shirt and coupled with his unshaven face, and he looks like he just came off a bender at skid row.
Educators should respect their audience enough to dress appropriately. Being respectful doesn’t always mean being comfortable and being ‘cool’ is not the criteria when you are teaching. Being truthful is. The truth is not harmed by dressing like one respects themselves as well as their listeners.
I think that is enough for today. The real point is, not just that I needed a change of pace for one day, that Christians should look to the Bible and Jesus to guide them in their actions.
It is not wrong touse Facebook,MySpace or Twitter etc., but your response to other people’s reactions to your offerings may be sinful and the believer needs to be aware of that fact and replace their sinful actions with biblical ones.
It is not wrong to grieve or share good news but a believer should be discerning on the time and place they share such emotions. Not everyone wants to read about it especially when the media used is inappropriate and for some other purpose.
The same can be said about how one dresses. Alternative dressing became a big fad in the early 60s and 70s simply because it was an action to draw a certain response from the older generation or to make ‘a statement’.
People can make a statement by being modest and tactfully clothed. The idea of being ‘sexy’ at all times is a bit out of control. I got tired of the concept when I watched a 4 minute yahoo internet show and the host made the comment about looking ‘sexy’ when giving birth.
That comment took the cake as I do not care who you are, if you are worried about looking sexy when you are trying to push a baby out then you have a very deep problem. Looking sexy is the least of a person’s worries at any time.
When it comes to education teaching is a profession and teachers should dress like professionals because undermining your purpose is not a cool thing or even a good thing. The students in this country have to wear uniforms so when I switched to public school teaching many years ago, I looked at my students and decided that I should wear a sport coat, nice pants and a good shirt at the very least.
Respecting one’s audience goes a long ways in educating them. This thought can be carried over to the publically publishing one’s personal thoughts about their students. If you want to undermine your authority in the classroom and you want to have your students stop listening and respecting you then by all means publish your rants about your students in a media you know they search and read.
Students are not dumb when it comes to recognizing how adults truly feel about them. The teacher’s attitude toward their students and how they handle their student’s behavior plays a large role in the student’s education.
What I do is that every class I give my students a new chance to show me they can be good students. I do not hold their past actions against them because then I get upset and get distracted from my purpose for being in the classroom.
Treating students correctly and honestly,without being two-faced, goes a long ways in the classroom. I do not bad mouth my students to anyone at any time and I would never put bad comments about them on the internet where they will be publicly humiliated and betrayed.
Believers need to set the biblical example, not look to the secular world for guidance on their behavior.