As expected our two main antagonists have made their opinions known about our domestic violence articles on their website. Then as stated in our articles, they, and the people that commented underneath those responses, all feel that they are greater than God in both knowledge and morality.
You can read their comments at the following 3 links: here, here, and here. But why BG felt it necessary to tell us about IFB’s position on divorce is anyone’s guess. We do not care about the IFB’s divorce position.
We really do not care about the IFB itself. That is a denomination with a lot of problems. While many Christians take strong stands against different issues, many of them forget to include the instructions of Solomon and do not get wisdom nor understanding.
Those two attributes would save a lot of people a lot of problems if they are applied correctly. The main question is why do these unbelievers feel that they are qualified to speak on these issues and tell others that they can ignore God’s instructions?
The last time we checked neither of those two antagonists were qualified to address domestic violence. They do not hold any college or post-graduate degrees in counseling or social work. Nor do they have the Spirit of Truth helping them find the truth.
They may feel qualified to speak up because we said something they did not like. They forget, we have degrees in Theology and are qualified to bring spiritual advice to people.
We have also been in many of Dr. Gary Collin’s lectures, read his books along with other Christian counselors so we have a bit more experience than they do in this issue. Plus, we look to the Spirit of Truth to help us say the right things.
In the book, The Hole In Our Holiness by Kevin DeYoung, he quotes the great commission on page 16. In that quote, he highlights a sentence that he basically says most believers do not remember or quote. That sentence goes like this:
teaching them to follow all that I commanded you (Mt. 28:20a)
That is what we have done in the past two articles and most of the articles we place on this board. We should mention that his quote used the word ‘observe’ which he then explained means to obey. The term ‘follow’ would fit that definition.
We are to not only obey God’s instructions but we are also to teach all converts to obey them. Giving advice contrary to what God’s word says is not fulfilling that Great Commission command.
This means that we are to teach our children the very same things. To fight domestic violence, men need to be reminded of what Paul said in Eph. 5:
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
Christ did not do violence to the church. Even when it disobeyed him. But at the same time women need to be taught how to be with their husbands:
22 Wives, subject yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. (Eph. 5)
We do not care if women like that verse or not but it is important as Paul goes into greater detail in Titus 2:
3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, 4 so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored. (bold ours)
We all know what love is and if not, then those that don’t should read 1 Cor. 13. These Christian and biblical commands will cut down on domestic violence if practiced and understood correctly.
Any solutions the unbelieving world provides do not come anywhere close to the impact these commands have on marriages. It is ironic that those who do not believe keep rejecting God’s solutions when those very solutions bring the exact answer the unbelieving are seeking.
If every husband and wife obeyed God in these commands, we would not see domestic violence take place. God’s word is not just for the believer it is also for the unbeliever.
Another reason why the unbeliever may reject God’s solutions is that they do not fear God. Abraham recognized in his day that certain civilizations do not fear God:
Abraham said, “Because I thought, surely there is no fear of God in this place, and they will kill me because of my wife. (Gen 20:11)
Paul wrote about it in Romans and said:
“There is no fear of God before their eyes.”(3:18)
Why is that? We cannot speak to Abraham’s day as he certainly feared God and still felt that those around him did not share that fear. In today’s world, we can say that the unbeliever does not fear God because many in God’s church do not fear him nor obey his commands.
They are too busy trying to change the word of God to fit what they want Christianity to be, or to be more ‘inclusive’ or to not ‘offend’ anyone. Kevin DeYoung went on to say that we are not merely trying to win souls for Christ but getting those new believers to obey God/Jesus:
We don’t take the Great Commission seriously if we don’t help each other grow inobedience (pg 16).
That growth in obedience includes following Christ’s teaching even when domestic violence is taking place. Then fearing God is another of Christ’s commands.
Honor all people, love the brotherhood, fear God, honor the king. (1 Peter 2:17)
The church is to fear God and that is not a scared type of fear but as Webster’s dictionary defines it:
profound reverence and awe especially toward God (source)
If the church does not have profound reverence for God and his commands, it cannot expect the unbelieving world to have any either. That situation is where we are at today and why unbelievers like Meerkat Musings and BG contradict and attack us when we address controversial issues.
We will stand with what we have written as it is always better to stand with God than unbelieving people. The church needs to get back to fearing God and learning how to obey his word correctly.
That is not an IBF belief but a biblical one. Then the church needs to teach new converts how to fear God and obey him correctly. The church has the inside track to solve all issues including domestic violence. It just needs to stop being intimidated by the unbelieving world and take courage in God.