Domestic Violence 2

We knew we would get a response about our article yesterday and as usual, in the comment section, the unbelievers show off why they should not be in charge of just about anything in life.

They only seek their own way and do not care if they sin or disobey God or not. You can read those comments at this link. In a little bit, we will discuss a point one of them brought up.

In the meantime, Christians are to follow God’s instructions, commands, and statutes. They have left the old world behind, the old culture, and the old way of doing things are also left behind.

When they became believers in Jesus and accepted him as their savior, they entered a new kingdom and a new set of rules to follow. A believer does not take their marching orders from the unbelieving world but from God.

One of those orders coming from God is found in Proverbs 3 where it says,

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
And do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He will make your paths straight.

But that is not all that Proverbs 3 has to say. It continues in verse 7:

Do not be wise in your own eyes;
Fear the Lord and turn away from evil.
It will be healing to your body
And refreshment to your bones.

Doing evil would be considered disobeying God. You should notice that neither of these passages of scripture has an escape clause- except in the case of domestic violence.

We are to trust God completely and acknowledge him. Far too many people in this issue of domestic violence violate those instructions and impose their own understanding on this issue.

There is something else that is very important that believers should remember, when Jesus gave his words to everyone, domestic violence was a part of his world. His world was not filled with all believers and nice people.

Yet, Jesus said the very same things and his disciples continued his teaching on these delicate topics. Jesus was well aware of what goes on in a household. He knew women and men were abused yet he did not change his instructions nor the instructions of the OT.

Paul writes in Ephesians the following words:

Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (4:32)

Again, we do not find an escape clause that states, except when domestic violence occurs. Christians are to be different from the unbelieving world. They are not to copy them or follow their bad examples.

We have different instructions if we want to see solutions to the many problems and controversies of today. Remember what Solomon said in Ecc. ‘There is nothing new under the sun’ and all the problems we face today have been in existence since Adam sinned.

How we handle them will make the difference. The pre-Bible world had Melchezidek, Job, Noah, and others to teach people how to live the right way. We in the 21st century have the Bible.

God’s way is not our way and he sees the hearts of people, something the unbeliever cannot do. God knows the answers to domestic violence. We just have to stop and follow his ways. Paul wrote in Colossians:

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (3:13)

Again, there is no escape clause saying ‘except in the case of domestic violence. Jesus said ‘love your neighbor as I have loved you’ but Jesus did not say except in the case of domestic violence.

Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” (Rom. 12:17 -19, bold ours)

You should know that the words ‘no one’ are all-inclusive and leave no one out including domestic abusers. Christians have to set the right example. If they do not, then how will the unbelieving world know what is right and what is wrong?

None of these verses stop people from filing charges against an abuser but it must be done in honesty, truthfulness, with real evidence and true justice must be sought. we do not sin when trying to bring justice to the world.

Do your own word studies on love, compassion, forgiveness, punishment, and see for yourselves what the Bible teaches. We know we are not covering everything in this issue at this time but it is important that the believer learns that they are part of God’s kingdom and his rules are to be obeyed.

Look at the many examples where God punished disobedience. Domestic violence is not a topic where God has given permission for his rules to be ignored.

You want to solve this problem, then you have to fight with God’s instructions. You do not fight fire with fire or in other words, you do not solve problems coming from evil with solutions coming from evil.

You solve them with solutions coming from God who is holy. Now to get to that comment that bothers us a little bit:

I don’t see what the issue is with divorce. Based on how most Christians believe, you can divorce, then once it is all over, confess your sin to god and be forgiven. Then you can just move on as if nothing happened – just like you do for men who sexually assault women then ask god to be forgiven.

We have seen these situations far too often. It started from the Roman Catholic Church and their easy forgiveness/confession plan. or their selling of indulgences.

Christians, for the most part, are not part of the Roman Catholic Church. they are a part of the Catholic or world wide church but the two entities are entirely different.

We do not abuse God’s kindness and grace. God is not up there as a forgiving machine where he rubber stamps all requests for forgiveness. When Christians sin, they are to truly give up the sin or sins they have committed and then follow Jesus’ wise words ‘Go and sin no more’.

We have no permission to sin or to casually sin. Sadly, too many Christians do exactly as described in that quote. They seek to fulfill their own will and use God to make them feel better about doing it.

That is not the right way to live the Christian life. We need to make sure our lives are as holy as God’s is and if that means sacrificing some desires then we sacrifice those desires. Not seek a way to achieve them through an end run.

Jesus said, ‘Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you’. We are not to seek what we want at the sacrifice of God’s kingdom.

This includes domestic violence as well. Neither husband and wife are free to abuse the other or their children. They are to seek God’s kingdom in their marriage and live as God intended them to live.

But as we wrote nothing and no one is perfect and there is evil in this world trying its hardest to bring believers down. We deal with those imperfections and influences by obeying God’s instructions. Not by obeying those who follow evil.

I’ve been weighing up a response of my own. TEWSNBN certainly has some odd takes on subjects like this. I don’t understand how any reasonable person can believe violence is not grounds for divorce.

This is a quote at the end of the current string of quotes at that link. It is always amazing to read how unbelievers think they have solutions to life’s problems. They all have the same attitude that they are greater than God.

Yet, over the past 6,000 to 10,000 years they have yet to solve one problem. All the problems that existed in Adam’s day, in Noah’s day, in King David’s Day, and in Jesus’s day continue to exist today.

They do not have the answers for the world. they just have more of the same injustice, violence, lying, and so on. One would think they would give up trying and look to Jesus to solve their problems. He is the only one who can.

When believers start to realize that all of the Bible applies to all of the issues and problems of the world, then maybe we can make a better impact on this world. We can show the unbeliever that Jesus’ way works. We can’t show them if we do not obey God.

That means doing things God’s way over the unbeliever’s way. Is domestic violence wrong? Of course, it is. But this issue has more complicated aspects than simply blaming the man and exonerating the woman.


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