We got an early morning phone call today informing us one of our good friends had died suddenly. Most people do not know what to say when a friend or relative suffers a loss, we are no different. We offer the following to help our friends and others in their time of mourning.
Corrie Ten Boom,,, wrote of her experiences in a now classic book The Hiding Place. In it she recalls a particular time in her childhood when she was nearly overcome by a fear of death and being separated from her loved ones. Her father comforted her with these loving and kind words:
Corrie, he began gently, when you and I go to Amsterdam when do I give you the ticket?…
Why just before we get on the train.
Exactly. And our wise father in heaven knows when we are going to need things. Don’t run ahead of him… When the time comes that some of us will have to die you will look in your heart and find the strength you need
There is an old saying, a friend in need is a friend indeed and James and Nerissa have been our friend when we have been in need many times over the past year. We are deeply grateful for their contribution to our lives. Yet when good people die, someone always asks where was Jesus so he could prevent the deaths of such good people? There are two answers to that question
#1. Jesus cannot alter or change the rules that his father set up to govern this life. It is appointed unto man to die once and we cannot escape from that rule till the rapture happens. Lazarus, The Shumanite woman’s son, Dorca, and others raised from the dead, all died again. They were not given an exemption to God’s rules. WE all have to face death.
#2. When I was younger I counseled many times at bible camps and one particular camp at the fireside time I would stretch out my arms wide and would get about 6-7 children gathered under each arm. They were comforted. When we suffer loss, Jesus is there with his arms open wide waiting for those in mourning to come into them and be comforted. We cannot experience Jesus’ comfort if we do not suffer loss. So instead of blaming Jesus for a death, run into his arms and experience the comfort he brings that no human can do.
Jesus is there when we need him, take him up on his offer of open arms.