The Huffington Post has an article on this issue and it is found at the following link:
When one does not get the answers to their problems that satisfy them why is this the only option they look at? Why don’t they hang on to their faith and keep searching for the right answer? We mentioned this in the last post but it is a very important question for it tells the church and other believers that there is more behind the problem than just simple doubt.
That’s exactly where my conservative, evangelical faith left me in college, when it collided with the extraordinarily complex and vibrant religious fabric of New York City: stranded on dry land. The faith my parents gave me had been constructed like a delicate house of cards. I needed to believe all of it
We would like more details on the bold words for how was the faith she was taught a house of cards? What areas of what she was taught was inferior? Needing to believe all the Bible is not an answer to those questions for her faith was not attacked generally but in specific areas so we would need more details to understand her transition away from faith to unbelief.
Let just a little bit of doubt creep into that “all or nothing” system, and the whole thing can come tumbling down
Doubts will come and how we handle the doubts of others is important but Christianity doe snot fall because of a little doubt, the people fall because they did not continue to fight those doubts and seek the right answers. They let unprepared or uncaring believers’ responses dictate what they will believe or accept.
’m not alone. America is full of people who have asked tough questions about the religion they were raised in
There is nothing wrong with asking tough questions but the person asking the questions cannot stop at just those people who give bad answers. They need to be spiritually mature enough to discern if evil is using those unprepared believers to cause them to stumble in their beliefs and leave God. The person asking the questions has a responsibility to do spiritual work if they want the right answers to their questions. Just because some people do not handle them correctly is not reason to conclude that the Christian faith is wrong.
Then the person asking the questions must accept the right answers if they truly want to hold on to their faith. The responsibility for their decisions lie with them not those providing the answers.
For some of my friends and family, religious identity is a matter of heaven or hell. When your religion has such stark eternal consequences, it makes sense that when you see a loved one doubting, your instinct is to find a way to bring that person back into the fold as quickly as possible. But to achieve that goal, perfectly well-meaning Christians sometimes do more harm than good ― even though they may not be aware of it
We can agree with the bold words but the doubting person needs to have some understanding and stop condemning and judging those who do not meet their expectations. The fault does not lie solely with the church and those who respond to the raised doubts.
With the help of a few writers and HuffPost contributors who have gone through periods of doubt in their own lives (some who have come back to Christianity and others who have left the faith altogether), I’ve put together this list of common phrases that people hear when they express doubt in their religion
When you leave the faith, and while you may point out some unsatisfying answers, you are not in a position to know the truth nor tell others how to respond. You have lost contact with the HS and are about as blind as any unbeliever is. We will stipulate that we do not like many answers given by other Christians but a little understanding goes a long ways and getting understanding is a biblical instruction. Sadly those who use other believers’ answers as excuses for leaving their faith always disobey God first. They listen to unbelievers, they do not follow god’s instructions and they give up long before they find someone with the correct response to their questions.
Normally we would go through all 6 statements and point some things out but we do not like them either and have had some of them said to us. When we have problems we are not looking for additional prayers or answers we already know, we want solutions and the people who doubt want solutions as well thus the church needs to teach its people the right information so that the people can help those who doubt.
The advice they give is obvious and not necessarily the correct way to do things
Doubt is a gift. It means the way you see God is fraying at the edges, and maybe it needed to. None of us have God mastered, and a lack of doubt just means you aren’t thinking about the ways you could be wrong.
As an example, we would like to see biblical teaching supporting that idea. Jesus usually rebuked those who doubted, he did not encourage it. Yes God can use the doubt but only if it is to lead the person to the truth. If the person has the truth he doe snot need to question himself and wonder if he is wrong. Once yo have the truth you do not need to investigate further, you go with the truth knowing you are right.
The advice given is not Christian advice even though we are to listen to what people are saying so that we can provide the correct answer. Their reasoning is seeking to allow doubters to go with alternatives and not the truth.
He writes, “I want them to come to terms with the possibility that I will always be a non-believer for the rest of my days, and I want them to clearly communicate to me ― in word and in deed ― that they will accept me as I am and not punish me or treat me differently for no longer believing.
In other words, they want to be accepted and supported for their sin and that just cannot happen. There is no way for Christians to accept and support sin. This is an idealistic attitude that ignores God’s teaching about those who reject his ways. While we do not judge or condemn them nor do we withhold aid when they need help we cannot treat them as part of the kingdom when they reject the kingdom of God.
he most important thing is to see doubt for what it really is ― an invitation to embark on the greatest spiritual quest of your life
No, the doubters need to see that doubt is sin and it must be dealt with not embraced. Doubt destroys, it leads away from the truth and motivates people to toss away their faith when there are other more viable and better options available.