This may be the shortest section in the series and before we get to it, you really need to read the introduction in part 1 before reading any other section in the series. That introduction sets the tone and the context for what follows in each post.
Today’s section is based upon the article ‘12 of the Biggest Lies You Might Hear From Christians’ and is found at the following link:
We are not going to do a point by point study of each ‘lie’ because the nature of that article does not demand one. We will address the list as one unit this time because that is what is required.
1. I’m not going to let him (or her) hurt me anymore.
2. I don’t need any help.
3. I’ve got this under control.
4. I’m only going to try it one time.
5. God and I have an understanding.
6. I’m a self-made man (or woman).
7. I can stop any time I want to.
8. That would never happen in my marriage.
9. Be honest with me. I can take it. I won’t be mad.
10. I don’t have time.
11. I’ll call you soon.
12. I’ll be praying about that.
Our initial reaction to this list is ‘so’. Then we need to ask ‘why is that author making a mountain out of a molehill?’ Christians are like other people. They are weak at times and make mistakes. Even Abraham lied so we should not be condemning other believers because they are not mature or strong enough to make themselves vulnerable or pay the cost for being honest.
What these ‘lies’ tell us is that the person making them may need intervention, instruction like Apollos received from Aquila and Priscilla or some other type of correction but we do not need to judge and condemn people because they falter in their faith.
God did not ostracize Abraham because he told a lie to the Pharaoh nor should we. We should strive to bring about the correct response when caught making false statements not stand there pointing a finger in superiority and say ‘thou liar!’
Our job is not to humiliate others, it is not to micro-examine their words to find some fib in order to be biblical’ and cast the offender out of the congregation and so on. We are not on a mission to be judge jury and executioner.
We are on a mission to build each other up in the faith correctly and not use misguided thinking to condemn them as serial liars or great sinners who need the ultimate punishment each and every time they err.
Sometimes we wonder why those authors we examine here feel the need to highlight these supposed ‘lies’ for their use indicates to us that more work needs to be done in the lives of those who tell these comments and that we should roll up our sleeves like Aquila and Priscilla did and get involved. of course that involvement means to instruct them on the correct ways of God and not our own subjective ideas.
Nothing is gained in the church if we just stand back and accuse others of lying and then do nothing to lead them to the correct way to live. We will drive many people out of the church by doing do. Also, nothing is gained if we approach the people in the wrong manner or at the wrong time.
We are to here to build resentment but to help other believers to that spiritual maturity that enables them to be honest in their comments and their situations. A lot of understanding is needed when confronting people for they may not be trying to lie on purpose but are trying to be private people protecting their privacy by not stating what is really in their minds.
We do not condemn private people for being private is not a sin nor condemned by scripture. or they may be using those terms to tell others that what they are asking is none of their business. A lot of believers stick their noses in where it doesn’t belong under the wrongful idea that they have a right to know. They do not.
Too many busybodies have ruined more than one family and faith.
There is a reason God told us in scripture to get wisdom and understanding and part of that reason is that we do not trespass in the affairs of others unless truly led by God to do so and we have to be accurate in the determination, or until we are invited by the person in question to hear their troubles, etc..
We do not assume nor judge or condemn but seek the truth about why they said what they said, then provide the correct information in the biblical way.
We also must realize that people lie and that it is not always a big deal and we should not make it a big deal. Nothing is gained by over-reacting or over blowing the situation. Again this is where proper discernment, wisdom and understanding guide us to the right response.
Finally, we need to understand that not everyone is at the same level spiritually. They have not learned all the spiritual lessons yet thus they are merely responding out of what they know and where they are at. Over-reacting will hurt their spiritual growth not continue it. We need to be wise in our discernment of their words not superior or ‘spiritual’.
What really would help is if those who construct these lists were spiritually wise and truly hearing from God and then provided wise counsel to go along with their individual ‘lies’. Just making a list and providing their own whining or subjective views, does not help anyone and opportunities to teach the church the truth are lost.
Leaving people to their own devices without proper guidance is as wrong as it is dangerous for one is opening up a Pandora’s box of misunderstanding and application of the list. Christians are to look before they leap. They are to act when they truly know God is leading them to say something to these people not when they think God is leading them.
Good intentions are not necessarily obeying God’s leading.
We need to be careful when we intervene when people make false statements, for if we aren’t we may sin in our efforts and make things worse not better.
Part 4 will come when we can get to it. We are taking this series one day at a time depending upon our schedule and situation.